Working From Your Heart

Your heart and my heart are one. This is the core of your deepest humanity. When you sit down to coaching sessions, your heart and my heart are one but only if you have finished exploring intellect, finished attending ceremonies and finished trying to change the unchangeable. Then, you will begin the beautiful and profound journey that comes with coaching.

In this place your heart and my heart are one, we are interconnected, no need to compare, we are a part of something bigger, where our individuality is transient, the moment becomes important and we both relax. Then, we have no idea of what should happen next.

This place of connection is a beautiful reality. In it we find the core of confidence, love, beauty and a healthy life. This is coaching at its best.

If you and I spent our whole time in your coaching doing nothing other than opening your heart, re-opening your heart and developing the qualities of your heart, it would not be an exaggeration to say that this alone would bring you to the highest peak of your life.

Because, it is only through your heart that you find your truth and within your heart that you find answers. In this place you and I are one. You have to know this totally. To separate your heart from my heart in coaching is to think you are great and I am small, or visa versa. If you do that, then you are locked in to your own identity and from that viewpoint you cannot see those vital interconnections between you and everything. But with interconnection, and an open heart, your viewpoint changes: strength and conviction emanate. Compassion and loving-kindness build all aspects of your life, including sport, health, financial, social, career, spiritual and love. It is in your heart that you feel at peace with your life. Then it is through your heart that you find a way to treat those who disturb you and ultimately, a way to be true to yourself.

Your heart represents your essential nature. The development of your heart in coaching means the untangling of your mind from your heart. Your true vision in life, your inspiration and your purpose come from the illumination of your heart. These are of the utmost importance to your work, relationship and health. All heartbreak comes from complications of mind heart confusion. Therefore, coaching to your heart is the centre around which your life can revolve.

Your heart is not the emotional centre around which most people make choices. The human heart is often mistaken for a nice fuzzy feeling in the centre of the chest. But that is not your heart, not your centre, that is your emotional centre. So, when we speak of heart in coaching, we are talking about the human spirit. It is not a feeling but rather a knowing. Inspiration is when the inner voice speaks louder than the outer voices, and your heart is your inner voice. Actually, it is not a voice at all. Called the human spirit it is not a physical existence. It is a pure, unconditional knowing. No words can describe it. But you can feel it.

In coaching our mission is to find and open your heart. To untangle it from emotions, confusions, beliefs that don’t serve you. Opening your heart is to find your truth, a truth that doesn’t waver. To re-open your heart is also to empower you to hold a certain centre, and be true to yourself and others. It all begins with gaining a true sense of your being. By separating your mind from your heart you learn a new way to think and feel that reflects your truth. It is natural, and, it creates a certain inner confidence, a strength, and builds a foundation from which your life may evolve.

Coaching can’t be separate practice from daily life because it is a constant refinement of life itself. Coaching doesn’t mean rushing around solving the world’s problems either, because those obstacles are countless and that rushing around is in itself part of the world’s problems. Coaching helps you listen to your own heart, to your own particular gifts. It enables you to focus on what you really love to do and to express yourself without tension or reaction. The intent of coaching is to help you enjoy the deepest experience of life. To live awakened and find stillness and harmony within.

In everyday language, ‘heart’ means the central or innermost part of something such as the ‘heart of the city’, it also means the essential or vital part of something such as “what is the heart of the matter?” Heart is also a magnificent expression of your humanity. When we think about people we frequently use the term heart: a person with a ‘lot of heart’ is someone with determination, to ‘lose heart’ means to be discouraged so we see that the will of a person and often depression comes from a closed heart. We refer to the human heart when we talk about generosity or sincerity as well as consideration, understanding and helpfulness as when we say, “He/she has a big heart.” or “She/he is a dear heart.” When a person is cruel or mean or when someone shows no regard for others we say, “His/her heart is closed or small or cold or that “She/he has no heart at all.” The heart is also most sensitive to feeling and has been called “broken” at times, although no physical break actually occurs. So, your good, healthy and open heart plays a huge role in your identity, success and happiness in life.

Coaching must go below the surface of your mind. It must go to the depth of your heart. In your heart there is clarity in your mind there is personality. It is through your heart that you feel your “Self” and know yourself. In coaching, once a person understands the character and the mystery of their heart, they understand the language of the whole of their success. Once the heart is open, we know truth. So in life you have choices: listen to your heart or listen to your mind and its stories or fear and uncertainty. But in coaching, there is no option, your heart matters.

Coaching takes a certain trust A trust that, when faced with what seems to be an insurmountable challenge, coaching will get you to the other side. It does not necessitate becoming obedient or following a set of rules. Coaching is not lived in temples, or on particular days of the week, nor is it only reverence to my authority or knowledge; Coaching is lived every single moment of our lives because it opens your heart and influences greatly what people see of you, and what you think, to your secret thoughts and your secret ideas.

In coaching I will say “put your heart into it,” which means to become fully invested. It means to throw the full weight of your humanity behind something. There are no half hearted success stories. As you coach I must be vigilant. Your heart must remain invested. That is my job. To keep your heart fully invested in whatever aspect of life we are focussed on because when the heart goes out of something you will automatically sabotage it. Coaching is here to help you invest yourself fully in maintaining a commitment to your inner voice, your heart, because through this alone you will automatically achieve many of your wildest dreams.