October Fest – #7. Why a Purpose

Sometimes patience pays off. And if we spend our time here today watching the ocean, you never know what we might see that people come a long way to see here in Bondi to see. So there’s once again the big game in the small game. And today I want to share with you the reason we would have a sense of purpose in our life.

Your life purpose makes no sense, no earthly sense in the small game. Why would you have a purpose bigger than you? Why, why would that be of any value? And the answer is, it doesn’t. In the small game life purpose is ridiculous. It doesn’t make money, it doesn’t help you have more sex. It doesn’t give you a better job. It doesn’t make you more healthy. The only thing life purpose does is connects you back to the big game.

The great thing about being in the big game is that you see things from a whole balanced and beautiful perspective. And when you see things from a whole balanced and beautiful perspective, everything gets calm.

So an athlete would call that being in the zone. A religious person would call it the grace. A spiritual person might call it enlightenment. But these states are being, are never permanent. These states are being a temporary, We lose them back into the small game and then we evolve ourselves back up into the big game again.

And so the question we have is, how often can you connect to the big game? Because in the big game, You see order in the chaos, what looks to be traumatic and chaotic in the little game. And we are trying to win it with working our butt off to try and win a new job or be smarter than somebody or be more involved than somebody else, or go faster than somebody else. In the, in the, in so called little game, we live and die by our words.

We live and die by our thoughts. We live and die by them. We think we are what we think in the big game. What we think becomes the variable change becomes the permanent. And so everything, everything changes in the big game. And to keep a context of what is big change and what is changed, to keep the context of that, you have universal laws, which are the constants of the big game. You have universal laws.

And those universal laws do not apply for most people in the small game. Most people in the small game trust, morals and ethics and rights and wrongs. If you look really careful at the video, by the way, you’ll see whales surfacing about halfway between the waves and the horizon. But they’re a long way away. And you may not actually get it really clear on the video. They’re not breaching. They’re just surfacing with their dorsal and then going down, there’s two of them, Mum and cub on the way south, which is an everyday occurrence here at Bondi Beach at this time of year because all the whales are coming back from giving birth.

They’re going down to fatten up and feed them just like I will be soon home for lunch. So the reason we have a purpose is to connect us back to the big game. The reason we have a vision is to try to put some order in the small game. Now, predictability is a big thing in the small game cuz we want to pay the rent. We don’t want to be in fight flight.

We don’t wanna be in got to or, or should or need to. These are very desperate states of mind. So we create a vision in order to stabilize the small world, to stabilize the small game. Give us a sense of control over the small game so that we can reengage with the big game. Now in the big game, there’s no winners and losers. There’s just a universe. There’s just living in harmony with it. And there’s this sense of joy and sense of overwhelming love that you can have in the big game in which things that transpire in the small game don’t cause us reaction. Now if there’s a big difference between the small game and the big game, it’s the big game will have a plan. It will have your ideas of what’s gonna be right and wrong.

And it will start laughing. It will start giggling the cosmic giggle. Oh, you’ve got a plan there, you know, haha. And what we say in leadership is the person who can implement plan B the fastest is always the leader. And so it’s really important to understand that the rules of the big game make plan A and plan B and plan C equal in the little game. You go, I really want this and if I don’t win that I’m not gonna be me and I can’t be that and I won’t be this. And there becomes all this emotional fear of the future, guilt of the past and all these other things going on. And that’s the game of life. That’s where movies are made, businesses are created, consumers consume people jump off cliffs because they’re sad that they’re small game they lost and they, they just have no sense of purpose, no sense of bigger game. And

I think one of the challenges in many families is that the, the family plays to the small game rather than the big game. And so they measure themselves and their children and their lives and their size of their house by the small game rules. And the small game rules are fictitious. Not, not three people in the world have the same rules for the small game. They might say they do, but that’s face what’s going on behind the camera. What’s going on behind the scenes in the small game is anybody thing. But most of it is about survival.

So the challenge for you here, I’ll have to bend down cuz the camera’s too high. The challenge for you is to determine whether you want to play in both the small game and the big game, or either or neither. To play in the big game. You’ll need to know the rules, play in the small game. Morals, ethics, worries, anxieties that’ll drive you and a vision by for now.